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Misconceptions in the Meeting: A Lesson in Self-Confidence

Updated: Sep 18, 2023



What we think is not real! Watch your mind, always.


Four people, two men and two women, who had never met before, found themselves in an office for a business meeting. However, one of them arrived late. During the meeting, one of them remained conspicuously silent, hardly uttering a word. Two others were hesitant to discuss their ideas openly, while the fourth person was clearly not feeling at ease.

Immediately after the meeting concluded, each one began to dissect and interpret what had transpired during the meeting on their way home.



© Robert Mapplerthorpe, I love his photography work
© Robert Mapplerthorpe, I love his photography work


The man who was apprehensive about expressing his ideas concluded that the silent woman must not have liked his appearance, believing it to be the reason for her silence.


The woman who was hesitant to voice her thoughts assumed that all three of her colleagues considered her to be superficial, a mere facade with nothing substantial to offer.

The silent woman believed that all three were looking down on her because of her lower social status.


The uneasy man was convinced that everyone in the meeting thought he was a dull person, which hindered his ability to speak freely.


Have you noticed the common thread among them?


All four individuals lacked self-confidence for the very same reason! They all perceived reality incorrectly, except for 'her' in the picture.


by Loredana Denicola









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