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love, sex and relationships
| Black and white video-photography project |  Film photography | Mamiya II 6x7 | 2015-ongoing |

 

love, sex and relationships is a collection of intimate conversations between myself and others.

It is a multidisciplinary documentation project that includes questions posed to myself, couples, and individuals, who live or have lived in a love relationship. It also contains reflections, thoughts, emotions and poems, on the theme of love, sex and relationships.

 

“I felt a strange attraction towards him, which I could not understand and control. He was often drunk, fond of pornography, ready to accuse me, humiliate me, offend me. But I wanted to understand what it was that led me to remain in such a relationship: what is love? Life confronted me once again with psychological, physical and emotional abuse, but this time it was different; I was aware.

Finally I was able to observe the pain as something separate from me and became conscious of the abuse. I used my camera, video documentation and writing as forms of expression to get myself out of a somewhat oppressive situation and understand why I was ‘in love’ with this man. I felt guilty, angry, frustrated and jealous of someone who didn’t respect me. Or perhaps was I not respecting myself? Too much empathy hurts at some point until we have the courage to abandon everything that doesn’t make us feel good.

This is where the strength of loving oneself resides.”

 

Twenty – five people took part in the project, including couples and  single individuals met online and on the streets of London.

I explored different types of relationships, from heterosexual relationships to homosexual ones, single mothers, divorced or separated couples, and more.

Addiction to love can lead to emotional problems such as depression, anxiety, violence, jealousy, obsessive thoughts, pain and confusion. Many of us are trapped in toxic sexual and love relationships.

After the interview, I invited the couples or individuals to represent their relationship to the camera in any way they wished. Traditionally, a photographer seeks to capture telling images of their subjects. My approach, however, was to discover how the subjects of my project  might portray themselves.

 

“I wanted to explore what it is like for others to be in a relationship. What is love? What is sex? What is a relationship ?Do you love yourself? Does education, culture, religion confuse us? What do we fear? Are we free?”

 

The project began before Brexit and Covid 19, in multi-ethnic London, while I was in a love relationship with my ex-boyfriend, which later became abusive and developed the theme of love. I didn’t love myself. 

The video photography project includes analog photographs in black and white, a video documentation (16 individual videos, total duration 6 hours), a trailer,  a nine minutes monologue titled do you love yourself? and an ongoing  photography book.

The video documentation is recorded in London and it is in English with English subtitles. 

 

You can follow the project of love, sex and relationships on Instagram

A mother warmly embraces her teenage daughter.

 

FILIZ, single mother with a teenager

A young man sitting in an armchair.

GANGA, divorced after 10 years married

The embrace of an elderly couple.

GILL and RICHARD, married for 30 years

A woman holds her husband close.

EDWIN and GIULIAtogether since 18 years

A mother embraces her own daughter.

ESPERANZAmarried for 30 years, separated not divorced with a daughter

The tight embrace between two married women

AGNESE and VIRGINIA, married for 2 years

The love between two men on the streets of London

 

JAMES and JOAKIM in a love relationship

 

A man smokes his cigarette while sitting in his armchair

 

TONI KINGsingle, divorced, with a teenager he can't see

A married couple embraces in Epping Forest

 

SARAH and ROBERTmarried for 13 years with three children

A young couple embraces on the couch at home

 

WEN WEI and VALERIA6 month together, getting married in 6 months

A dwarf man is looking at me from the bushes

 

CHRIS, single

Two women are kissing in bed

 

GIULIA and DIANA, living and working together since two years

A passionate kiss between a mature couple

 

 

ROBIN and PAOLA, married since 2 years

My mother and my father are close

 

 

MUM and DAD, married for 45 years with four children

A 7-year-old girl

 

 

ERICA, 7 years old

A blank photo frame representing my ex-boyfriend

 

 

LASZLO, my ex-boyfriend

Double exposure: Me embracing myself

 

LOREDANA, the interviewer

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